jamiebluewind:

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anexperimentallife:

Actually, this is called Anecdotal Communication. It’s when you express empathy by giving an example of a similar situation that happened to you. It’s common in neurodivergent individuals.

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thatdiabolicalfeminist:

permanently-sprained-ankle:

Accessible bathrooms are more than just “a big stall”

There are a lot of disabled people. And a lot of disabilities. Therefore, there are a lot of ways to make a bathroom accessible.

An actually accessible bathroom would have:

• A large amount of space that can accommodate mobility aids, medical equipment, a personal care assistant, and/or a service animal.
• Sturdy grab bars around the toilet.
• An emergency pulls string that calls EMS if a disabled person has fallen and injured themselves (this is common in the UK).
• An adult changing table.
• A trash can for medical-related waste, such as catheters, -ostomy bags, etc.
• A safe sharps-disposal bin.
• Floors that aren’t slippery.

And tbh, there’s probably more things that can be made accessible. But those are the bare minimum.

And a sink inside the stall so mobility aid users don’t have to soil our aids with unwashed hands!

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astraldemise:

one time in my last job a woman came up to the register explaining that when she bought stuff a day prior the clerk forgot to scan a pair of socks worth less than €2 and it was only right for her to bring it back to the store and pay for it proper. unfortunately my manager was directly next to me at the time and took over the register to handle this serious issue. the receipt she had brought with her said which register performed the previous transaction that forgot the socks and the manager could find out who was running that till on that day. poor dude had a manager yell at him for a half hour about how much of an incompetent fuck up he was, he left the job immediately after but i couldnt tell you if he quit or was fired

i think about this moment a lot. the customer seemed like a sweet woman with only good intentions and when she paid for the socks she had a look on her face that said “i feel good because i did the right thing”. and a guy lost his job because of a pair of socks. if shit like this ever happens to you and a clerk forgets to scan an item just think of it as a small blessing or that you had good luck or something. keep it.

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creative-anchorage:

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magnusbae:

magnusbae:

To illustrate this post by @mayahawkse I would like to visualize to you the difference:

A post in 2023:

A post in 2014:

A zoom out of the same post:

This is what a community looks like.

See how in 2023 almost all of the reblogs come from the OP, from their few hours/days in the tag search. Meanwhile in 2014 the % of reblogs from OP is insignificant, because most of the reblogs come from the reblogs within the fandom, within the micro-communities formed there. You didn’t need to rely on tags, or search, or being featured. Because the community took care of you, made sure to pass the work between themselves and onto their blog and exposed their followers to it. It kept works alive for years.

It’s not JUST the reblog/like ratio that causing this issue, it’s the type of interaction people have. They’re content with scrolling and liking the search engine, instead of actually having a reblogging relationship with other blogs in their community.

Anyways, if you want to see more content you like, the only true way to make it happen is to reblog it. Likes do not forward content in no way but making OP feel nice. Reblogs on the other hand make content eternal. They make it relevant, they make it exist outside of a fickle tumblr search that hardly works on the best of days.

If you want more of something, reblog it.

Something I see mentioned often is “I don’t have many followers, my reblog won’t matter” which is untrue.

First of all, reblogging, commenting and interacting is how you start gathering your own micro community, second of all— you literally do not know how far a single reblog from you could go in the long run.

For instance, let’s say you only have one person reblog from you, and that person only have one person who reblogged from them also, and so on, and somewhere ten reblogs down the line a very large blog reblogs it and boom, the post is getting more and more exposure!

You see, it does not matter if you don’t have a large following so long as you cultivate a micro community with the people you do enjoy interacting daily with.

As you can see in the second picture I added, most of the reblogs were between very small groups of people, and occasionally it’ll lapse into a large blog that would create a bigger reblog pool. BUT STILL. Saying that you don’t have many followers and so it doesn’t matter if you don’t reblog is UNTRUE.

Even if someone just randomly wanders into your blog one day, it’s beneficial for both sides because A. Seeing you reblog content they like might be enough for them to follow you B. They would be exposed to new content creators they didn’t know previously and might also follow / reblog from them!

So yes, do not underestimate what your reblogs and words mean, just because you’re not ‘big’ or whatever. It is not how tumblr works!!

P.S IT IS NOT CRINGE TO REBLOG 10 YEARS OLD CONTENT ON TUMBLR. YOU SEE IT. YOU LIKE IT? REBLOG IT. DOESN’T MATTER IF YOU DIG IT FROM THE DEPTHS OF HELL ITSELF. XOXO :’D <3

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scretladyspider:

Hey y’all. I need to request mutual aid. Due to my joint hypermobility (likely undiagnosed EDS, I’m diagnosed with joint hypermobility but tbh I match a lot of EDS criteria, but I mean it took them like 27 years to even diagnose me with the joint hypermobility even tho I constantly had ankle sprains growing up, anyway) I’m unable to do heavy lifting and need to hire movers. I need help to raise $1800 by July 21st.

Between needing to start new utilities, paying this and next months rent at the same time (a requirement by the leasing company), the pet deposit, and the last month of rent on my current place, plus everyday things that naturally come up like gas and groceries, I just do not have the funds to do this without help. My family already helped me with the security deposit, which I will be paying them back for, but because of this they do not have the funds to also help with movers. Im $50 of the way to the goal already after sharing this on Twitter, so I’m sharing it here too.

Anything helps. Thank you. 💜

Please reblog. 💜

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$82.53/$1800! thank you! please continue to share 🩷

$264/$1800 of the way there!!! Thank you all so so so so much! please continue to reblog 🩷

$460/$1800 of the way there!!! please continue to share. Thank you all so much for sharing, helping directly if you can, and supporting me through this!

$590/$1800!!! Thank you all so much! Please continue to share!

$630/$1800!!! Thank you all so much!

$800/$1800!!! Thank you all so much!! Please continue to boost in the meantime. Again, thank you all so so much!

$1282 out of $1800 of the way there!!

$1332/$1800!!! Thank you all so much omg. Please continue to boost, the sooner this is met the better, but still y’all blow me away!

$1357/$1800 of the way there! $443 to go!

Turns out my car insurance renewal has a 2nd payment due the 25th, $160. Total goal is now $603 for moving, needed ASAP. Please reblog!

$583 to go!!! Thank you all so so much. Please continue to share!

I was able to make car insurance!! Thank you all so much! That leaves $443 left to raise. Funds are needed ASAP, by the end of the week if possible, at the very latest the beginning of next week. I’m $171 away from covering the movers, then after that it’s utilities. Please reblog!

$425 left of the overall goal!!!

Thank you all so much💚

moving is a huge thing; any and every little bit really does all add up. I am floored and can’t thank you all enough for your help!! Please continue to reblog — we’re so close!

$313 left of this Mutual Aid Request! 💛

🚨Funds are needed by the end of this week. 🚨

if 16 people sent $20, it would meet the goal.

Reblogs help a lot!

thank you ♥️♥️♥️♥️

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scretladyspider:

Asexual and aromantic are not “spicy straight trying to be special LGBT”.

This argument, much like “you’re not really bi/pan if you are with someone of the opposite gender”, asks for visibly performative queerness then ignores the inherent queerness in these experiences.

If being straight is being allosexual, heterosexual, heteroromantic, alloromantic, and cisgender, all at once, then a person only needs to not be one of these to call themselves queer if they want to.

This always ruffles feathers, but..cishet isn’t the inherent opposite of queer.

• Allosexual — not ace or under its umbrella
• Alloromantic — not aro or under its umbrella
• cisgender — aligning with your gender assigned/designated at birth
• Heterosexual— sexual attraction to the opposite gender
• Heteroromantic — romantic attraction to the opposite gender

If all aces and aros were cishet, which we’re not but just for the sake of this example, how would this detract from the queerness inherent in asexuality and aromanticism? Each are complex spectrums of a fundamentally different experience than the world teaches us we should have.

Aces, aros, and bi/pan people in “straight passing” relationships are often lumped into cishet as a way of delineating “not queer”, regardless of other factors. But this dismisses queerness and asks for specific, unnamed perimeters to be met for it to be recognized.

When presented with ways that experiencing little to no sexual attraction, or little to no romantic attraction, are in fact in opposition with the expectation for everyone to have both (allonormativity and amatanormativity or amanormativity respectively), people don’t accept it. Or rather, they don’t accept it as a thing on its own. Sometimes this means getting treated as if you’re just trying to be edgy, as if proclaiming you’re part of a marginalized group gives social media clout or something. Other times it’s just not treated as enough on its own by other queer people.

This happens in ace and aro spaces too. Cishet is used often as shorthand for “not queer”, directly pushing away aspecs who may be cishet and also ace and/or aro. It doesn’t seem intentionally exclusionary, but unintended exclusion is still exclusion.

This reflects, also, the expectation of performative queerness that is thrown at bi and pan persons both in and out of queer spaces. There are also many aces and aros who are bi and pan, and who may or may not be cisgender.

The reality however is there is no way to “perform” queerness that is satisfactory to all who demand it. The result this odd sort of existence where when one appears queer “enough”, that is used as weaponry against them, but when it isn’t, it’s used to exclude queer people from queerness.

And the real kicker is asexual and aromantic are enough. Bi/pan folks are still their orientation regardless of what their relationship looks like. Gender is it’s own thing, separate from the others, but related because this all ends up being a pile of queer identity spaghetti.

Regardless of how queer a person appears to you, or if you understand their individual experience… Ace is enough. Aro is enough.

The demand for performative queerness is used to try to defend from harm, but it ends up attacking anyone not visibly queer enough to the beholder.

We need to be more explicitly inclusive — especially in our own spaces, but also outside of them when talking about how queerness operates. If someone else’s queerness makes your idea of queerness more complicated, that’s not a bad thing. Learn from that, and let them be.

If you see someone is ace or aro and then see they’re more like you than you thought they could be, or that they don’t engage with it how you expected, that’s not a reason to be exclusionary. It’s a reason to try to expand what you include in your idea of queer.

Once, you needed someone to include you to feel comfortable in your queerness.

Set your ego aside and extend a hand to those you don’t quite understand. Be inclusive. Especially if someone’s relationship to their queerness challenges what you thought was possible.

thank you for reading if you like this please consider contributing to my moving expenses, there’s $425 to go and anything and everything helps

you can also find my blog, my links, my socials, read/listen to interviews, or just say hi here on my linktree

thank you again for reading and remember to be inclusive! Other queer people are not your enemy. have a nice day!

pens-swords-stuff:

Don’t let anyone tell you that writing is easy.

People oftentimes think that anyone can be a good writer because it’s just words. People might devalue writing and say that you should be doing something better and more lucrative with your time.

Writing takes effort, writing takes skill, writing takes discipline and writing takes practice.

It’s staying up until 6 in the morning because you want to get all of your thoughts down before you forget them. It’s tearing your hair out because you’re stuck, and you don’t know how to continue on. It’s rereading your writing and hating the words you’ve written because they sound so stilted and boring.

Writers, what you are doing now is an impressive thing. You’re attempting to create an entire world from scratch, create compelling characters that will capture the hearts of readers, trying to explain that brilliant scene in words when you can visualize it so clearly in your mind.

It can be a really difficult and daunting task, but you’re doing it and you’re doing it well. It’s not worthless, it’s not meaningless, and it has a lot of value. 

Writing is the joy of your characters coming to life. It’s the rush that you get when you finally get to that one scene you’ve been dying to write. It’s feeling like you want to cry when someone tells you that they loved what you wrote. It’s that sense of accomplishment you get when you can look back at what you’ve written and say “wow… I actually did this.” It’s the sense of fulfillment you get when you’ve had a productive day. It’s those long days of just thinking about how your story is going to surprise you, and planning ahead 20 novels in advance because you love your writing and your story. It’s the joy of creating, the fruits of your labor, and the excitement of sharing it with other people who will love it just as much as you do.

Nothing will ever take that away from you. Let yourself be proud of being a writer. Give yourself a pat on your back and say “Hey you know what? I love writing, and I’m doing great.” Because you are. You’re doing something really hard, and you’re doing it well.

Writing is an art that can touch people’s hearts, and if that’s not magical I don’t know what is.

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worth-beyond-a-number-scale:

squirreltastic:

worth-beyond-a-number-scale:

zombie-luna:

I don’t know whether or not this is true, but I’m reblogging this because we live in a world where the third search result when I tried researching the validity of this information was a link to an article about a weight loss product.

The second search result had included the slur “ob*se” in the title of the article.

There are seriously people who tell me fat people aren’t oppressed. Meanwhile, trying to find information about how to keep a fat person from drying in a car crash is met with links to products that make dirty money off of how society views my body.

I immediately gave up trying to research this.

The tiktok is correct. Basically it’s about arranging your belt so it there is an accident the pressure is in your strongest bones.

“Seatbelt should be across your hips rather than your stomach for everyone, but i think it’s more common for fat people to wear seatbelts over the stomach

Pelvic bones are strong and sturdy, and you’re going to be MUCH less likely to injure internal organs and such when you suddenly slam into a nylon belt”

Text and photos by @thejacespace

I wanted to put both of these reblogs in one reblog chain since this is helpful information. Thank you both for giving more information than fatphobic Google did.

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macmanx:

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The World Of Becca Blake

Art by Dan Schkade

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American Civil Liberties Union

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